As part of writing non-consent and gender degradation erotica in a responsible manner, I regularly present a Reality Check article, touching base with safety, respect, equity and health in the real-world. 


I’m not going to make this a whole essay, but it’s probably a good time to say this.

Sex is not the same thing as gender. 
The only person who’s an authority on your gender is you.

Look, because of what my kinks are, my erotica fiction is a complete mess when it comes to representation of gender. It does it wrong, and that’s the point of it, because taboos are hot.

But our kinks should not be our politics.

Trans women are women. 
Trans men are men. 
Non-binary people exist and are wonderful.

Sure, a trans woman who realised she was trans when she was an adult may have different life experiences from a woman who has identified as a woman since birth, and that means they have different things to bring to a discussion on women’s issues. But so do a black woman and a white woman, or a poor woman and a rich woman.

Trans women are women. Trans men are men. Non-binary people exist and are wonderful. 

To all my readers everywhere on the gender spectrum, you’re welcome and valued. If you find something hot in my writing, please enjoy it. And if you don’t – well, I don’t know why you’re reading it, but there’s nothing wrong with that either.

– All These Roadworks
June 2020

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